Contact Us

Katie Martoche
Title IX Coordinator
Director of the Center for Career & Community Engagement
Franciscan Hall, Room 107
716-649-7900, ext. 291
Fax: 716-648-3327
kmartoche@hilbert.edu

Phyllis Dewey, LMHC
Director of the Counseling Center
St. Joseph’s Hall, First Floor
716-649-7900, ext. 232
pdewey@hilbert.edu

SHARE Committee Members:
Jill Cole, Director of Residence Life & Judicial Affairs
Anne Continetti, Admissions Counselor
Phyllis Dewey, Director of Counseling Services
Jeffrey Papia, Director of Campus Ministry & Mission Integration
Jake Peters, Assistant Director of Residence Life
Elaine Szczepanski, Student Finance Counselor

Hilbert Campus Safety - (716) 479-1233
Hamburg Police - (716) 648-5111
Emergency Number - 911 or 9-911 if calling from a campus phone

HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

Signs of Partners in Healthy Relationship:

  • Treat each other with respect
  • Speak openly to one another about thoughts and feelings
  • Feel heard when expressing feelings
  • Listen to each other and compromise
  • Do not criticize each other
  • Feel supported to do the things they like
  • Celebrate each other’s accomplishments and successes

     

    Basic Steps to Maintaining a Good, Healthy Relationship

  • Be aware of what you and your partner want for yourselves and what you want from the relationship.
  • Let one another know what your needs are and be able to communicate them assertively.
  • Do not demand that a partner change to meet all of your expectations. Work to accept differences.
  • Expect conflict - be willing to negotiate & compromise on the things you want from one another.
  • Perspective-taking & empathy - try to see things from the other’s point of view and to accept them.
  • Realize that healthy relationships take continual work and effort to maintain. When differences come up, try to negotiate.

References: http://www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/healthy-relationships/

http://waves.gmu.edu/healthy-relationships/